The Office I Imagined vs. The Office I Found
By Rhona Afiemo, Programs Intern.
Before I started working at Connected Development, I had a picture in my head of what office life was supposed to look like. That picture was heavily influenced by the books I had read, the movies I had watched, and the series I had seen. In my imagination, an office was a serious place where everyone came in, sat at their desks, did their work, attended a few important meetings, and went home. Conversations would mostly be about work, relationships would remain strictly professional, and everyone would probably dress formally.
After watching The Office, Suits, and The Devil Wears Prada, I had different versions of that picture. Suits gave me the polished corporate environment where everyone seemed constantly busy, perfectly dressed, and ready to walk into a high-stakes meeting. The Devil Wears Prada showed an intense workplace where work could appear at any moment, and expectations were extremely high. Then there was The Office, which showed the other extreme: coworkers who knew almost everything about one another, joked around, formed friendships, and sometimes seemed to do everything except work.
When I started at CODE, I realised that real office life sits somewhere between all these versions and is somehow completely different from all of them. One of the first things I noticed was how wrong I was about the idea that an office would be strictly business. I expected to walk in, greet everyone, sit down, and focus on my responsibilities. I thought conversations would mostly sound like “Have you sent the email?” or “What’s the deadline?” Instead, people actually ask questions. How are you doing? Do you understand what you’re working on? Do you need help? What do you think? There is an openness to asking questions that I did not expect, and more importantly, there is space to ask them.
That was probably one of the biggest differences between my imagination and reality. I had expected an environment where I would have to figure things out quietly because everyone would be too busy with their own responsibilities. Instead, I found that people are generally willing to explain, listen, or point you in the right direction. It reminded me of The Office, but without the constant chaos. The people around you are not simply colleagues who happen to occupy the same building. They are people you interact with, learn from, and sometimes depend on.
Another thing I have come to understand is the difference between working collectively and working as a group. Everyone has their own responsibilities, projects, deadlines, and tasks. We are not all doing the same thing at the same time; sometimes everyone is focused on completely different work. Yet there is still a sense of being part of a group. Someone might need assistance with something, and another person will help. Someone might need a ride, and suddenly a colleague is helping them get home. A task may not technically belong to you, but if you can help, you do.
That is something I don’t think movies show very well. In Suits, people are constantly competing, negotiating, and trying to prove that they are the smartest person in the room. In The Devil Wears Prada, the workplace is portrayed as highly demanding and competitive. Real work environments can certainly have competition, but my experience has shown me that collaboration does not always mean everyone doing the same thing. Sometimes collaboration is simply being willing to help. It can be as small as answering a question, reviewing something, sharing information, or helping someone get home.
If there is one thing that The Office prepared me for, it was meetings. But even then, I underestimated how many meetings an actual workplace could have. There are meetings to discuss projects, meetings to plan activities, meetings to give updates, meetings to solve problems, meetings to discuss the meeting that just happened, and somehow there is always another meeting coming. Before joining the office, I imagined that most of the day would be spent quietly working at a desk. I now understand that working also means talking, planning, checking in, reporting, brainstorming, reviewing, and making decisions with other people.
Sometimes the work is the meeting. Other times, the meeting creates more work. And sometimes you are sitting in a meeting, wondering how something that sounded like a five-minute conversation became an hour-long discussion. Still, I have learned that meetings are not necessarily a distraction from work. They are often part of how work gets done, especially when several people have different responsibilities but need to move in the same direction.
I also expected office clothes to be much more formal. In my head, office life meant shirts, trousers, skirts, blazers, formal shoes, and looking like you were prepared to appear in Suits at any moment. Then I got to CODE. People dress according to their own style. There is no expectation that everyone should look like they are attending a corporate board meeting every morning, but there is still an understanding that you are coming to work. It is a balance between comfort, personality, and professionalism, and honestly, I appreciate that. It has made me realise that being professional is not necessarily about wearing a particular type of clothing. You can be comfortable, express yourself, and still understand that you are in a professional environment. So no, my office wardrobe does not look like Suits, and thankfully, I don’t have to dress as I work for Miranda Priestly either.
Another surprise has been the amount of team bonding. When I imagined office life, I thought of people finishing their work and leaving, maybe with an occasional end-of-year party thrown in. Instead, there are moments when people intentionally spend time together outside of simply completing work. There is conversation, laughter, activities, shared experiences, and opportunities to get to know people beyond their job titles. This is probably one of the biggest differences between the office I imagined and the office I have experienced. In movies, relationships between coworkers are often there to move the story forward: someone becomes the protagonist’s best friend, someone becomes the villain, someone becomes the love interest. In real life, relationships are less dramatic but perhaps more valuable. You slowly learn who people are, what they are good at, how they communicate, what makes them laugh, and how they work. There is no dramatic soundtrack playing in the background. It is just people getting to know people.
If The Devil Wears Prada taught me anything, it is that work can appear when you least expect it, and I did not necessarily expect that part to be as true in real life. There is a constant flow of work. You can finish one task and feel like you finally have room to breathe, only for something else to come in: an email, a message, a new request, a meeting, another task, a deadline. Suddenly, your carefully planned day looks completely different. What has surprised me most is that the workload does not always announce itself. Sometimes you can start the day knowing exactly what you want to accomplish, only to discover that the day has other plans. It is one of those things that movies dramatise, but real life does quietly and consistently. The difference is that in a movie, the unexpected task usually leads to an exciting plot; in real life, it usually just leads to a longer day.
If I had to identify the biggest difference between my expectations and my actual experience, it would be the people. I expected an office to be made up of professionals first and people second. Instead, I discovered that the people are what make the professional environment work. They ask questions. They answer questions. They help. They joke. They disagree. They collaborate. They have their own lives and responsibilities outside of work. They have good days and bad days. And sometimes, they will go out of their way to help someone even when it is not technically their responsibility. That has changed the way I think about office life.
Maybe I entered CODE expecting something closer to Suits: serious people, serious conversations, serious clothes, and serious work. What I found was something closer to a combination of The Office, Suits, and The Devil Wears Prada, except with considerably less dramatic music and a lot more teamwork. There is the professionalism of Suits, the humour and human connection of The Office, and the unpredictable workload of The Devil Wears Prada. But there is also something none of them completely captures: the ordinary kindness that exists in a real workplace.
Watching office-based movies and series gave me an idea of what I thought work would look like. They made offices seem either extremely corporate, extremely chaotic, extremely competitive, or all three. My experience at CODE has shown me that real office life is much more nuanced. It can be professional without being overly formal. It can be busy without being impersonal. People can have different responsibilities without becoming isolated from one another. And teamwork does not always mean everyone working on the same thing; sometimes it simply means knowing that there are people around you who are willing to help.
There are many, many meetings. There is an endless flow of work. There are unexpected tasks, deadlines, and responsibilities. But there is also laughter, team bonding, conversations, questions, support, and the occasional colleague willing to help you get home.
So if movies and books created my expectations of office life, CODE has given me the reality. And I have realised that maybe the best workplaces are not the ones that perfectly resemble the offices we see on screen. They are the ones where you can walk in knowing there is work to be done, while also knowing that there are people around you who will help you do it.